So I asked on Instagram some blog posts topics and quite a few said to talk about Staying Happy In Marriage. Matt and I have been married now for 4 years and have been together for 8 years. So to me we’re still fairly new to marriage. But I wanted to share some of this with you guys because, well you asked!
Do small things to make them feel loved.
Maybe it’s making their lunch for them, writing them a little love letter, buying them their favorite candy or even filling up their gas tank or taking the car for a carwash. Understand their love language is key though. It’s such a good baseline to go off of. Once you know how they express love, give that love back to them. Take the love language test here!
Be respectful and kind.
This one seems simple but it’s a good reminder. Yesterday I had breakfast with someone I love and always appreciate her wisdom. She said always try to be respectful with your words, be kind and don’t complain about your husband or wife to others. I get when you need to vent I get it but if you have an issue or something is on your heart talk to them! You can’t fix it if you’re not willing to talk to your significant other with whatever is bothering you.
Work on yourself.
Read the right books, listen to the right podcasts, fill your own cup. Practice self-care. I love the phrase you can’t pour from an empty cup and this is so true. Take time for yourself, if you need to talk to someone go to therapy and don’t feel any shame around it.
Don’t be afraid of therapy or marriage counseling.
This kind of bounces off the above but I think there is still a bad stigma on marriage counseling or personal therapy. I personally go to therapy and Matt and I are not perfect but we do things to work on and improve our marriage. I think it’s so important to do so. Opening up and communication is KEY. Talk about topics that might feel uncomfortable or that you typically avoid. When you’re more vulnerable and open with each other your marriage grows.
Make the decision to work on your marriage.
I think Matt and I make it really intentional to listen to what each other needs and wants are. We try really hard to listen and remember things, we work on ourselves too. We also use and love the app Lasting. It has different topics and discussion to do and talk about and we love it!
I hope this helped, this was a little out of my comfort zone but you guys wanted it so here it is!